Grownup Gals and Their BFFs

A Wise Woman...chooses friendships with care.

When was the last time you made room in your brain to consider the girlfriends you've attracted into your life?

I know you're busy, and as a grownup gal with a very full life you may feel like you have enough to think about in a day, but give this a moment or two. Think about each friend you spend time with, and listen to your internal voice. What do you hear? How do you feel?
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        Picture - BFFs Bella and Tara

When we give this some honest thought we might be surprised, pleasantly or otherwise, at what we find. Hopefully the things you hear and feel confirm that you've chosen friendships that are good for you. You deserve that. Sometimes though, we hear and feel something different. We can't quite put our finger on it - we just know that we don't feel good about things, or even ourselves, after we've spent time with them.

The key word here is knowing. We all have this place of knowing - the place where we access our intuition or our "gut instincts" that signal us to do or not to do something. Mine is located where my solar plexus is, and over the years I've learned to trust it and treat it with the greatest of respect. It knows! The trick for me is to listen to it in the first place. 

I know I have chosen friendships well when I feel good about who she is, while enjoying who I am when I'm with her. It doesn't mean we have to agree on everything or even have most things in common. It does mean however that egos are "checked at the door", there are no prejudices or judgments and we both feel comfortable to be who we are, knowing we'll be loved and respected unconditionally. 

It's not a stretch for most of us to imagine that we are affected physically, mentally, emotionally, even spiritually, by the people we spend time with. Doesn't it make sense then, while we're eating right, exercising and getting enough sleep, to add choosing our friends with care and intention to the list?

For a great example of how to do this, take another couple of minutes to watch this clip. You'll be glad you did!

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Watch BFFs Bella the elephant and Tara the dog